You have probably seen it coming. He is distancing himself from you and
he's been hinting that you are crowding him. What is happening? Did he
lost interest or has he got a new love interest? And most importantly,
what do you do?
It is true that the male species will use this excuse to break up with
a girl, but there are also other possibilities of why he feel the need
for space. It could be that he is dealing with personal problems,
insecurities or just plain fear of commitment. So do not give up just
yet because this may just be a phase that will go away in time.
Firstly, deal with your own confusions and rejection. Right now you may
feel that you should walk away to keep your pride since he doesn't
enjoy being around you anymore. It will behard to swallow for a girl
but since you are still in love with him, you have to get over that
thought and put your plan to work to get him back. However, you get to
play hard to get to let him work his way back to you. Keep on reading.
As far as the request for space is concerned, you are still an item and
it is only normal to check on each other consistently. However, keep
text messages and conversation brief and nice. This mean that you
should only talk about "happy" topics and this is definitely not the
right time to raise issues and problems.
During this time, only remind him of all the good experience in your
relationship. Make him rethink his (rewarding) relationship with you by
revisiting the places you used to go and doing the things you both used
to enjoy doing. Remember do not dig into any issues you have at this
time or your previous hard work will be undone.
From here, it is really up to his response to your approach to truly
know what he is thinking. If he is still lukewarm about your
relationship, it could probably mean that he has a change of heart.
However, under normal circumstances, he should react positively towards
the newfound happiness in your relationship.
If he is showing encouraging signs, you can gradually coax him into
opening up to you. Do not pressure him into it, or appear desperate to
know what he is thinking, as you risk surrendering your negotiating
power once he sense your desperation. Also, do not reveal your
intention too soon to him even if he profess his undying love for you
after all that you've done.
