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Deal With A Break Up The Systematic Way
Using Our Break Up Advice
Dealing with a break up is tough on both parties, especially when you
are the one dumped. There are two main reasons why you are feeling
twice the pain experienced by your ex when dumped. For one, your ex may
have used your weakness as an excuse to break up with you when that is
not the case at all.
#1 Reason To
Stop Wallowing
Once you see the break up from your ex's point of view, you will
probably feel less pain than you're feeling now and begin dealing with
a break up in a more effecient manner. When your ex decided to break up
with you, he or she will try to figure out the best way to tell you
without hurting you. They therefore need "reasons" that can be used to
justified the break up.
At this point, these reasons are quite genuine and it may be the common
problems experienced by couples. However, as you go on to resist the
break up, your ex is forced to either coax you into giving up by
"giving it another try" or coming up with even more reasons for
breaking up. If all else fails, then blaming you for the break up is
last method to ending the relationship. To them, to deal with a break
up is basically getting you to agree to the break up.
Now that you see the other side of the story, you should know that
getting messed up over the break up is a silly thing to do. You may be
tempted to think that your ex is such a villain, but the truth is the
"dumper" usually do not want to hurt you. This is why, if you so
choose, you can get your ex to come back if you deal with the
break up properly.
Are You Having A
Dumpee Hangover?
On the other hand, you may be feeling lousy right now because you just
cannot accept being dumped. As much as you hate to admit it, you are
hung up because your self confidence is in tatters, and the rejection
your ex threw at you is too hard to swallow. This will not be the case
if you are the "dumper", not the "dumpee". Unfortunately, this is
something you have to deal with before you think about how to deal with
the break up.
Write It Down
To do that, you have to give your heart a detox. Write about your
frustration, your anger and your humiliation in a blank piece of paper.
Do not call your ex 3 o'clock in the morning to pour your heart
contents out. Whatever you want to tell your ex, put it in this piece
of paper. Take your time writing it and don't be afraid to use strong
language that reflect your current feelings, and you're much closer to winning your ex back.
Sort It Out
When you are done doing so, read through it and you will instantly see
why you are feeling what you feel, since we tend sort out our feelings
easily in writing rather than thinking. Here's the deal : your ex will
not get to read this letter. Why the extra humiliation? Once you have
read the letter, burn it. You have just completed the feeling
detoxification necessary in dealing with a break up successfully.
In his book,
The Magic Of Making Up, T.W Jackson demonstrate the complete ways to
instantly stop the pain in dealing with a break up, called the "Fast
Forward" method. If you want to
stop your break up and get back together with your ex for good, check
out T.W. Jackson's site here.
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